While tidying up some paperwork I came across the following poem by Kahlil Gibran.  I particularly like the second verse.

1.”Then the Almitra spoke again and said, And what of marriage master? 

And he answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be for evermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness.

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

2. Love one another, but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone.

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

3. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”

Coaching clients often describe feeling that their thoughts are rushing a head in a jumbled random pattern, without clarity or a clear plan of action.  Individuals are aware that there are creative ideas in their head, solutions to problems and plenty of time and energy but somehow they feel unable to access their own Head Space effectively.  They usually feel very frustrated by this and sometimes begin to doubt that they do have creative abilities and the motivation and energy to review, plan and achieve their objectives.

Many factors such as Stress, bereavement, being busy busy, relationship problems and illness can inhibit and shrink Head Space.

Why is Head Space so important?

When a person is able to access their Head Space regularly and efficently it ables them to be creative; the space has infinate motivation and energy, problems become less daunting and solutions to issues start tumbling over themselves to be used.  People describe it as feeing almost invincible, certainly more in control and with plenty of time to achieve their objectives.

So how does a person tap into and develop their own Head Space?

An individual may have several ways to access their Head Space or use one way all the time.  In coaching sessions I help clients explore their unique ways to access and develop their Head Space.  The following are just a few ways you may wish to explore:  Taking exercise such as a walk in the park, listen to your favourite music, a visit to a Spa, mediatation (very simple ones which don’t take long ,such as watching the branches of a tree moving in the wind and lsitening to the sounds around you without holding on to each stimulas; just noticing each one and letting them go).

Happy exploring of your own unique Head Space.

Jane

It can be hard to stay motivated when projects we are involved in just do not seem to get off the ground, or they start well and then stagnate.  Sometimes it can be difficult to find the creativity and energy to move forward again  with the project or develop an alternative idea.  Three things help me to kick start my motivation: Just allowing a bit of space and time away from the project to let myself regroup, remind myself that I am responsible for my own actions and I can’t just expect good things to come my way; I need to look for them and remind myself that everyone has self doubt and setbacks in life at sometime.  In the end it is up to each and everyone of us to take personal responsibility for our own life and enjoy it too!

Jane Shire

How is your life at the moment?  Does it feel full of vigor and purpose or is it just running along the same as usual; not to bad but not particularly stimulating or challenging either.  Might this be a good time to review your life?  Might this be a good time to really reflect on how you want your life to be in 2-5 years time?

Then why not book a half price one hour coaching session with me and give yourself chance to explore: where you are now, where you want to be in the furture, and what you want to happen.  It could be fun to work through changes you want but have not quite been able to commit to so far; always a reason to leave it until tomorrow!  Is now the time to stop saying “I’ll do that tomorrow?

Jane Shire www.lifeharmony.co.uk

It is very frustrating to watch someone self distruct; to see a person face a situation or a change in their life which they do not want to happen or cannot believe is happening to them; when they appear to put on “mental brakes”, their normal ability to assess options and make a considered decision stops functioning and in my opinion they can then make really bad decisions which “shoot them in the foot”.  It is very frustrating and I feel for their distress, but it can be hard to help.

For example when couples are going through a divorce, often one person does not want the divorce to happen (for a variety of reasons) and he or she can become so resistent to the process of getting divorced that they lose out, not just financially, but often in the important area of contact between the non-resident parent and the children.  Every one loses out if one person digs their heels in and is unable/unwilling to accept inevitable compromises that follow a divorce.  Sadly the children stuck in the middle of the situation may decide that the agro and tension involved in contact visits is just not worth it.

It really helps if a person can find someone to support them through difficult times and when difficult decisions have to be made, but that person must not impose their own agenda or ideas; an ideal support person listens to you, may suggest alternative perspectives, helps you consider various options and supports you as you impliment your decision.

Jane Shire